Happy Father's Day 2021

My father is daily remembered for having taught me the most valuable lesson in life. A difficult lesson and not one that I recognized till years later, my father taught me the meaning of ‘tough love.’

Now many of you reading this will jump to the conclusion that my father compelled me to suffer some great hardship to learn this lesson. That was certainly a popular idea when I was growing up. Force the kids to endure the harsh realities of life.

Exactly the opposite was true. The love he taught me was tough on him, not on me. Countless times he went to bat for me and supported me despite having to sacrifice some of his own pride, personal ambition, or leisure.

After some time when I had been defiant, argumentative or downright combative and he had responded similarly, he came and apologized. Not for my behavior, I came to realize, but for his own, where he thought he had not achieved some standard he held himself to.

The lesson is simple enough. One I’ve needed with my own children and not easy to live up to. Love is sacrifice. I need to give up my own foolish pride, my selfish ambition, my wants, my time, and my self-serving indignation.

The proving ground for this may be your own family as it has been for dad and myself, but the real test is carrying this sacrifice into the world. Something dad excelled at as well, “Love thy neighbor as thyself.”

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THANK YOU BOB for that!

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Happy Father’s Day Bob.

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Happy Father’s Day. :slightly_smiling_face:

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Happy Father’s day sir, and the same to everyone else as well. Hope your day is wonderful.

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Beautiful! Well said.

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Happy Father’s Day guys! I’m a lucky man that my father is still around. I’m 66 and he is 88. He was a single Dad and God love him, he taught me what it takes to make a living and how to treat people. I’m so blessed to have him.

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Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there, and thank you, Bob, for the words of wisdom, have a great day to all. :grinning:

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Happy Father’s Day!

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Happy Father’s Day!

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Happy Fathers Day !!!

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Thanks for sharing Bob! Very well said. Happy belated Father’s Day to all Dads out there.

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