Let me get this out of the way. I respect your opinions more than just about all others here.
You must remember a child’s mother decides who the child see and spends time with.
How on earth could it be worth that risk?
I have seen a great many grandparents completely stopped from having any contact with their grandchildren.
There is nothing a grandparent can do to stop it and most often the child’s father will side with the one who gives him the goodies at night.
I am almost outside the box compared to how others thnk but I see the world differently than most.
I say if there are no grand kids involved and NO POSSIBILITY of them then go ahead hire her but if there is it CANNOT be worth the risk.
Women use children as PAWNS as disgusting as it seems and guys do to but do not have the same power as the women.
I have a Daughter and as much as I love her I could not imagine the joy of having grandchildren and one screw up with mommy and you are done.
Consider it and do know that you cannot do ANYTHING to forcea mother let her children spend time with you.
You have way more to lose than you could possibly gain. Just watch any of the assinine talk shows I have been seeing during my duration on the couch. It happens constantly. Most often it is daughters telling Mom’s that if they do not do or act as they wish then they do not get to see the grand-kids.
SICK, SAD but totally true.
Please consider my opinion for your own sake. I wish you the best of luck whatever you choose.